Dr. Charley, How did you initially get interested in BDSM?
I actually officially discovered the lifestyle when I was working on my Masters in Psychology. I took a course in Sex Therapy and part of the training was to treat a couple who were experiencing some form of sexual dysfunction. For my couple, the man was suffering from impotency of the past six months which stemmed from his desire to spank his girlfriend and his feelings of guilt associated with that desire. When I asked the girlfriend if she had a problem receiving a spanking, she smiled and happily declared, “I’d love it!” So I gave them permission to explore! He called me the follow day to share that his impotency problem was over and they were taking a week off to enjoy themselves. I was so proud of myself. My first patients cured in one-session—Yahoo! When I returned to class to share my amazing accomplishment, my follow classmates were appalled that I would “sanction” such behavior. It was at that point the philosophy for my Private Practice was born since I believe as therapist it’s not my place to “Judge” my patients but to help them learn and explore the possibilities for their own sexuality and let them decide for themselves. I subsequently went on to learn more about sex and obtained a Doctorate in Human Sexuality, a Clinical Sexologist Certification, an Erotologist Certification, and Sex Educator degrees. I’m now the only Latina Doctor of Human Sexuality in the United States and at the top of my field. In 2005, I created the Dominance and Submission Therapeutic Mentoring Model and presented it before the World Congress of Sexology and the International Congress of Sexologist & Medical Physicians in Latin America. For the past 15-years, I’ve created and taught various workshops incorporating aspects of BDSM, Hypnosis, self-empowerment, and sensual/sexual enhancement for men and women, physicians, law enforcement and the mental health community. And now, writers!
Do you think BDSM is becoming a more accepted idea in society?
I believe BDSM has been in our society and in our relationships since the beginning of time in varying degrees. However, the terminology and semantics has been different. Here are a few examples: have you ever giving your lover a hickey or received one? Have you ever teased your lover till he swatted your tush—and enjoyed it? Have you ever wanted your lover to be more forceful or perhaps you were the one riding him or her to exhaustion with your demands? All of these things are part of Dominance and submission—all a form of the Power Exchange. I’ll explain. That hickey is a way to stake your claim so no one else will touch “your property”. That playful swat on your tush might have made you gasp but it didn’t stop you from teasing your lover further to see if he’d do it again. Or perhaps it was you Roleplaying the teacher and correcting your wayward student. Should I mention the times you thought to tie your part to the bed and have your naughty way with him—or visa versa? And of course, who hasn’t wanted to dominant their partner once or twice or be dominated by them to relish that primal sexual energy. I often tell people it’s this need for the primal uninhibited energy that has couples fighting just to have “make-up sex”. Just to have an excuse for being dominant or submissive. So has society become more accepting? I think it’s merely awakening to its own sensuality and putting a label on it.
Tell us about your new books. Where can we buy them!?
I’m proud to say that my new books, BDSM FOR WRITERS and BDSM THE NAKED TRUTH are both available for Pre-Orders at my website www.bdsmforwriters.com. Though we had a little snafu with the release date we can’t be stopped! The books will be released UNCENSORED and in all their candid glory August 2011. Reserve your copy today and receive a $500 Erotic Art Digital collection from Captured Erotica FREE. PLUS be entered to win great prizes such as Floggers, Shackles, Whips, even a Kindle, and more. Ok so my prizes are a little bit of kinky fun…but there’s a new mundane Kindle as well so you can enjoy reading instead of playing. *smiles*
BDSM FOR WRITERS: provides authors with valuable information about Dominance and submission and the various power exchange relationships. This book addresses the emotional and psychological connections men and women make in this uniquely erotic lifestyle dispelling many of the misconceptions perpetuated by Hollywood and the media. BDSM for Writers provides authors with a valuable tool to assist them in developing stronger more realistic characters, plots, and scenes. Discover the integral techniques and foundations necessary to train a slave, the benefits and pitfalls of rewards and punishment, and the various methods of how to use punishment and humiliation on a male versus a female submissive/slave to derive optimum results. There is even a BDSM Checklist created specifically for authors to assist you in developing your characters and those deliciously wicked scenes.
BDSM THE NAKED TRUTH: pulls back the leather curtain and reveals the truths about love, affection and the respect shared by men and women who embrace the uniquely erotic lifestyle of Dominance and submission. This book dispels many of the misconceptions Hollywood and the media have propagated allowing you a realistic view of the intricacies of the power exchange and the rich intense relationships formed by men and women who embrace this lifestyle. BDSM THE NAKED TRUTH provides you with information every novice or curious seeker needs to know and understand while validating and acknowledging the experiences and various levels of connection and relationships within the community.
I invite you to join my LIGHTENING BRIGADE—what I’m affectionately calling the first 300 men and women to order a copy of my books and help me bring this valuable information to light. Reserve your copy today at www.bdsmforwriters.com or www.bdsmthenakedtruth.com
What do you do for fun without Whips and Chains?
*Laughs and quickly hides my favorite Whip* Actually I love to travel and explore archeological sites. For the new millennium, I was in Egypt with my son and we were the first Mother and Child in the Great Pyramid on the Giza plateau. In 2009, I explored Cancun, Mexico and fell in love with Chichen Itza and the discovery of the Mayan Temple sitting beneath the Aztec one. For 2012, I’m planning a trip to Peru for December to explore the remnants of the Moche Tribe and the sexual artifacts that were found. I’m considering organizing an excursion which incorporates the spirituality of Machu Picchu and other sensual aspects of the culture as well as following the sensual path of the Moche Tribe and visiting the Largo Museum there; connecting spirituality and sensuality with a culture that predated the Incas by 3000 years and revered sexuality. That’s Heaven for this Sexologist! Though, I’m not sure if anyone else would like to join me. If you’re interested, contact me. Imagine the beauty of the ending, the awakening and a new beginning as we consider the cosmic cycle ending and beginning.
Before I say goodbye, I want to take a moment to thank you, Belinda, for inviting me to your Blog and I want to send a special thanks to all of you that join us today and shared your questions. One lucky winner will receive an eBook copy of my book (their choice). Please feel free to ask questions or leave a comment to be entered to win the eBook.
Have a SPANKALICIOUS day—week—because there’s always lots of kinky fun to be had!
Live with passion,
Dr. Charley Ferrer
Clinical Sexologist, Educator
TV/Radio Host & Producer
Award Winning Author
Dr. Charley Ferrer
Dr. Charley Ferrer is a world renowned Clinical Sexologist and the only Latina Doctor of Human Sexuality in the United States. She is the award winning author of The Latina Kama Sutra, The W.I.S.E. Journal for the Sensual Woman, and The Passionate Latina: In our own words.
Her TV Talk Show, Pleasure is the FIRST bi-lingual show on relationships and sexuality. Pleasure was nominated for Best TV Talk Show by BronxNet in New York City in 2007 and nominated for the Alliance Community Media—Northeast Region Award in 2008.
Dr. Charley conducts several radio talk shows in both English and Spanish called, LA Hora del Placer – The Pleasure Hour. Her shows can be heard on Radio Cumbre, LA X, and RCN Satellite radio. Dr. Charley is highly sought after as the Sex Expert on several syndicated Radio & TV shows including Kiss FM, Univision, Azteca America and the new Mio TV network.
As a freelance writer, her articles have appeared in various local and international newspapers, magazines and websites including El Diario La Prensa, Latina Magazine, and now Fox News Latino just to name a few. Dr. Charley conducts various self-empowerment and educational speaking engagements at Universities, Hospitals, CDC events, as well as private and non-profit organizations throughout the United States and Latin America. She is also an Adjunct Professor at Rutgers University.
She is the founder and Executive Director of the Institute of Pleasure whose primary mission is to provide education on relationships, mental health services to women and men, and conduct research on sexuality. Dr. Charley is a repeat speaker on sexual health and reform before the World Congress of Sexology and the International Congress of Medical Practitioners and Sexologist in Latin America. She was recognized as one of the Groundbreaking Latina in 2006 for her work in Sex Education & Health.
Books by Dr. Charley Ferrer
The Latina Kama Sutra
The W.I.S.E. Journal for the Sensual Woman
The Passionate Latina: In Our Own Words
Sex con Sabor Latina (A play)
BDSM The Naked Truth
BDSM for Writers: The Ultimate Guide
to Writing Believable BDSM Romances
La Latina Kama Sutra (En Espanol)
Para La Mujer Sensual
Sexploring: 30-Days to a Better Sex Life
Body & Soul--An Intimate Look at Black Men's Sexuality
Sex Repairs: The Quick Fix to Sexual Dysfunctions in Women
The Latin Lover: The Truth About Religion, Sex, & Machismo
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